This is why that list of “extenuating circumstances” sound a lot more like “reasons to not bother trying”
If you want to find love, you have to be willing to face challenges and work to overcome them, not look at them and say “welp, no point in even trying I guess”
You’ve rejected yourself before you even talked to someone because you won’t accept the possibility of success, just varying degrees of failure.
Breaking this cycle is going to depend on an important factor: assuming that maybe, just maybe you’re wrong. You’re wrong about not being able to meet people, that you’re wrong about not being able to get around as freely as others, that you’re wrong about the limitations you have. Work and your friends’ ages aren’t the hard boundaries of your life, nor are they the only ways you can meet people. They’re frequently the most convenient, but not the only way.
If you want to start having more success at meeting people, you have to start looking at these supposed limitations as challenges at worst, not impossibilities.